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When Anger Kills:
When anger kills, it
is often when anger is ignored over a long course of time. When a
person is angry and has the inability to address his or her anger
without erupting then we know we have a problem that needs immediate
attention. If a person is dealing with anger issues, he or she will
often use alcohol or drugs to relieve the symptoms. This is not true
in all cases, but alcohol and drugs only ignite the fire already burning
out of control. Anger is rooted from hate, and often the person with
problems has difficulty restraining his or her impulses, emotions
or desires. The person often acts out on impulse striking at the source
that made him or her angry. Not everyone kills when anger is an issue,
however in some cases, it has happen and it will happen again. Some
strategies for addressing anger are self-talk. When you feel that
you are losing control you might want to ask yourself what is going
on inside your mind? You may want to ask yourself if the anger is
caused by now, or is it anger that was built inside for years. After
you learn self-talk strategies, you will begin analyzing. This means
that if you talk yourself through the anger you may see the problem
in front of you and find a way to deal with the problem. Anger is
often a direct result of incident. Rather the person that deals with
anger may have been neglected, abused, bullied, and so on. The person
most likely did not address the issues upfront, rather allowed the
negative to build to a point of explosion. Often when we feel angry,
we feel as though the world has let us down. Try to remember the world
does not revolve around you and the misery that triggers your symptoms
is often a result of a decision. For example if you choose a Internet
provider and this source continued making problems, such as redirecting
you when you are trying to get a connection several times, this can
make anyone mad. However, the company is not focusing on you; rather
there is a breakdown in communication at the companies end. A quality
service would provide ample service in a reasonable time. They will
be informed of what goes on in their company and direct a person to
the right links. Sure, you are mad, but remember you are not the problem
and no one is out to make your life miserable. This example should
allow you to see that bad things befall us all, and how we deal with
it is the key to success. I cannot tell you the number of times I
wanted to blow up like dynamite, yet I had to restrain my impulses
to prevent problem. That is right! If you allow your anger to control
you then you are only adding more problems to your life. Nothing in
life is worth running your nerves and possibly landing in jail simply
because you lost control. Violence is never an answer to repairing
a problem. Sometimes we have to be assertive in life, but aggression
is not happening since it only makes matters worse. Anger is a strong
feeling that centers on antagonism…or anger, rage, and fury
and in most instances, it is due to displeasure. Anger never addresses
the emotional instigator rather it always conveys a hidden message
missing intensity and justification. This means when a person is upset
sometimes they do not know what is really causing the problem. This
means we have to look deep inside ourselves to find the source that
instigating the explosion. If a person is upset, it is rarely because
of a word, action, place, or person. Rather an integrated hatred has
been built through many years. The person is often lacking educational
experience and has probably suffered at the hands of underdeveloped.
Therefore, we need maturity in the picture, which means someone has
to re-teach this individual before anger kills. Anger is nothing to
toy with. When a person loses his or her ability to restrain self-control,
never underestimate what anger will do. Ask your self, why am I angry?
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