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Controlling your Anger:
Controlling your anger
is not always easy. It is important when a person has anger problems
to try to talk to the person. Avoid loosing your temper yourself since
this will only cause another problem. When a person has anger issues
then that person puts others in danger and if we loose our control
then we have a seriously chaotic situation that could lead to violence.
If you have a child that has anger issues, it makes since to keep
the chain of communication open. Sit your child down and talk with
him or her attempting to find out what is making the child frustrated.
Do not wait until the child is out of control and then try to talk.
This only fuses the person often. Wait until the child cools down
and then ask him or her what they feel caused the interruption. You
might want to search your own area of contact with the child to see
if anything you said or did made the child angry. This will help you
to avoid this the next time you and your child are together. My child
had anger problems and he was told to take a walk or a cool down period
before addressing the issues. Of course, my child had mental illnesses
underlying the anger and this contributed to the problems we endured.
Self-talk and talking is always helpful when we are dealing with anger.
Try to find the source of the anger by talking through the problem.
Some recommend the angered person counts to 10 or 15, however if there
is an underlying cause then this does not always work. The best solution
is finding what works for you. It is also recommended that the child
play a game, such as PlayStation, Nintendo or other game console and
play until your anger ceases. Again, this works for some of us, but
not all of us. A great technique I found valuable was drawing the
source of your anger if possible. Writing, self-talk, talk, art, and
music has proven in my experience to be more effective verses the
other types of techniques offered. Exercise is also great. Running
around the block, riding a bike, or going for a walk has proven helpful
for eliminating anger for some individuals. Dance is great for relieving
anger. Dance is a natural source of getting in touch with your feeling.
If you ever wondered what the term she’s got soul means, well
when you dance, feel the music and adhere to the steps of the beat
then you got soul. There is nothing like the boogie fever since it
relieves stress, tension, anxiety and makes your body and mind feel
good since you did something constructive. If you must vent your frustration
on something, get a punching bad, or else beat the heck out of your
pillow. Some great advice came from health fitness experts when they
advice me to enlist my child in Kick Boxing, Boxing, or Wrestling.
This is said to teach the person control. Karate is another recommended
source for helping a person deal with anger. The problem is when we
are dealing with anger; we must get the other person to cooperate.
Since most persons angered will find an excuse why the techniques
provided to them does not work, it is important to get them to understand
their anger, the problems and how the techniques can benefit them
if they apply them selves. Crying is good for relieving stress and
anger also; however, this is not always suitable for everyone. My
children were raised understanding that it is ok to cry regardless
of gender. Therefore, we need to teach our children regardless of
gender that it is ok to express your emotions and feelings. That is
not a disgrace; rather it is a developing of character strategy that
works best for us all. Emotions when suppressed will create more problems
for the people in society; therefore, it is important to address your
feelings and emotions when they arise. Dealing with the problems when
they arise is the best solution for dealing with emotions. Controlling
your anger is not always easy, but it is possible. Dealing with negative
anger is wasting precious time.
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